The idea of discipline often brings negative thoughts to mind. After all, who enjoys being disciplined? Yet, discipline is essential for living sober, godly, and purposeful lives. As Proverbs 12:1 reminds us, “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge.” True discipline goes beyond punishment—it’s about learning, growth, and knowing how to act appropriately in different situations.

While discipline is sometimes seen as synonymous with punishment, its original meaning was “to train or teach.” In my life, I have sought to be “discipled” by wise and godly mentors. Discipline, though uncomfortable, fosters growth. We often learn valuable lessons when we make mistakes and are guided to make better choices moving forward.

At Trinity, we use an infraction system to help guide students toward responsibility and positive behavior. Both Middle and Upper School implement minor and major infractions, while the Middle School has an additional category: responsibility infractions. These often serve as reminders for students to stay prepared by charging their Chromebooks, bringing necessary supplies, and completing homework assignments.

At the start of the school year, responsibility infractions are more common, especially among fifth graders, as they adjust to new expectations. However, as the year progresses, the number of these infractions typically decreases. This shows that students are learning and adapting to the expectations set for them.

Understandably, the issuance of an infraction can be surprising for both students and parents. Fifth-grade students and their parents, in particular, are often concerned about the implications. Some parents even fear severe consequences. One parent once expressed worry that an infraction was the first step toward a dire future. While this reaction was extreme, it illustrates the anxiety that can accompany initial disciplinary experiences.

It’s important to clarify that infractions serve as reminders to correct behavior, not as punitive measures with long-term consequences. The vast majority of students never accumulate enough infractions to face serious consequences. For those who do, lunch detention—which prevents socializing during lunch—is often sufficient to encourage change. Typically, students who receive multiple lunch detentions correct their behavior in the following trimester.

On rare occasions, a major infraction may occur, requiring the student to appear before the Conduct Review Board, a panel of adults who review the situation carefully. While serious consequences may sometimes result, the Board operates with a focus on restorative justice, seeking to guide the student back toward positive behavior.

Trinity is a community of children, young adults, and adults—all of whom are learning and growing together. Mistakes are inevitable, but they present opportunities for growth. It is the responsibility of adults to guide and discipline those in their care. Though discipline may be unpleasant in the moment, it often leads to lasting growth and positive outcomes.

If you have questions or wish to discuss this topic further, please feel free to reach out via email or phone. I welcome the conversation.