The Importance of Teaching Gratitude and Thankfulness
Susan Rivas
Gratitude and thankfulness are abstract, high level concepts that can be tricky for young children. In their early years, children are naturally self focused as a part of their development. However, as they grow, fostering a sense of gratitude helps them become more understanding of the needs and feelings of others. By ages 3-5, children can understand the concepts of gratitude and thankfulness more deeply and show appreciation independently.
Gratitude feels good! When we feel good, we do good! Having a positive outlook is good for our spirit, body and mind. Thankfulness also builds resilience in us. Gratitude builds deeper and stronger connections and bonds to those we love. We are more apt to show appreciation and kindness to others when we focus on the good and kindness of others. When we experience acts of kindness from others, we are more likely to do good unto others.
Tips for Teaching Gratitude
Teach Them to Say Thank You: Model gratitude by thanking others in front of your child and sharing what you are grateful for with them.
Express Your Gratitude: Be specific in letting your children know why you’re grateful for them. This reinforces their sense of being valued and loved.
Support Charitable Activities: Get involved in charity or community service, and involve your children. Explain how these actions help others and why they’re meaningful.
Be Consistent: Like all skills, gratitude is built through practice. Regularly model and reinforce the habit of being grateful.
Activities & Books to Enjoy with Your Family
Create a Family Gratitude Jar
Design Thank You Cards
Go on Nature Appreciation Walks
Establish Daily Gratitude Sharing Time
Bedtime Story Time & Discussion Books to Share with Your Child:
Gratitude Is My SuperPower by Alicia Ortego
Last Stop on Market Street by Matt de la Peña
The Thank You Book by Mo Willems
Bear Says Thank You by Karma Wilson & Jane Chapman
Being Thankful by Mercer Mayer
Research shows that thankful people tend to be more optimistic, less stressed, and generally happier. The first five years of a child’s life are crucial for developing these lifelong skills. By teaching children to appreciate what they have and recognize the kindness of others, we’re setting them on the path to becoming resilient, healthy adults.
Sources: Green Grass Nursery/Reggio Emilia Approach Artful Teaching/Joyful Learning Reggio Inspired First Things – Fostering Gratitude